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Have you ever felt embarrassed by your parenting decisions?

My 2 year old and I were on a walk, and after a short time, she asked me to hold her. So I picked up and carried her. As we walked down the sidewalk, I felt a little embarrassed- "What will people think of me, holding a two year old?"

I felt ashamed of myself, because there's nothing wrong with holding my toddler. Nothing at all. But I was too worried about what other people thought.

Have you ever made certain parenting decisions in order to avoid embarrassment?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:18 PM on Jun. 25, 2010 in General Parenting

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Answers (11)
  • I think that we as mothers often feel judged in general about many things that we do.
    buzymamaof3

    Answer by buzymamaof3 at 10:33 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • no, i don't give a crap what other people think about me or how i raise my kids.
    princessbeth79

    Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:19 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • I USED to be embarrassed but I quickly got over it! Both of my boys have autism, but unless you try to talk to them, you cannot tell--they have no other outward telltale signs. SO when they would have meltdowns in the middle of the mall, it looked as if I was an incompetent parent--because to strangers my children looked perfectly normal (of course, my husband, being a man, got sympathy, I as the mom, got the "evil eye!" LOL).

    But, as we learned what the "troggers" wer for our children we learned how to take them with us and avoid meltdowns, now I'm complemented on how well behaved they are! If only they knew!! LOL :o)

    At the age of 2, I doubt anyone is thinking you are a "bad parent!" While those who have already raised their children will never admit it, they were just as self0conscious as you are! Do what YOU feel is necessary. You know your child better than anyone else! :o)
    LoriKeet

    Answer by LoriKeet at 9:27 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • NEVER.....its my child my life and i will raise my child how i was brought up.....heck shes only 2 its not like she was 5
    mama2my2boys

    Answer by mama2my2boys at 9:20 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • yes and no. I have never been embarrassed by any major decisions I have made regarding my kids. I have been embarrassed a time or two by their behavior and thought' wow, I must look like a hideous mother!' and bribed them to stop what ever they were doing rather than dealing with as I normally would without people watching then felt guilty that I didn't do what I knew deep down I should have done...Did that make since?
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 9:21 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • I've been made to feel like I'm weird because I'm super attached to my 10 month old. I am 22, had my son at 21, and rarely leave him. I am a SAHM so we do everything together. He is really attached to me as well. I have a lot of friends that have babies young as well and they go out to the bars every weekend, have babysitters all the time, and are very hands off with their kids. They do make comments to me about never going out and that I need to "let go" and all this other shit. I wish it didn't bother me because I know I am a much better mom then them, but it does. I just feel like I have a 30 year olds maturuty level but I'm surrounded by 20 year olds. I'm not embarassed but I do feel like the odd one.
    Ash9724

    Answer by Ash9724 at 9:23 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • i wish i would have put my foot down on how my child was treated by my aunt (his mama). i wish i would've told her she needs to MAKE CERTAIN he is respecting her. i have been told many times i shouldn't spank or swat my child's butt, however those were always people that weren't parents and it doesn't make sense to me to take advice from someone that doesn't have a child at all.
    angevil53

    Answer by angevil53 at 9:26 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • * "triggers"
    LoriKeet

    Answer by LoriKeet at 9:29 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • My son is 4 and I sometimes GRAB him and pick him up....and he'll come over and CLIMB UP ME so I will hold his hands and he can BACK FLIP! lol


    Who cares what others think...they are only this young for a SMALL amount of time...I can't believe my SON starts Kindergarten in Sept. How long will he WANT to come snuggle with Mommy???

    sweet-a-kins

    Answer by sweet-a-kins at 10:48 PM on Jun. 25, 2010

  • other people's opinions are no basis for the decisions I make for/with my kids.
    autodidact

    Answer by autodidact at 11:30 PM on Jun. 25, 2010