I have a 8 month old ... & I'm with the baby's father, but we don't live together. I live at home with my parents... It is my choice why we don't live together. He has his own house in a not so good neighborhood, I'd rather our child not live there. So we are waiting untill we can get a better house in a better location.
He works from 3 pm to 12 am . SO he comes over everyday at 12:00 p.m and leaves for work at 3:00 pm. (3 hrs.) everyday. I take care of our baby every day, every night...I don't go out and party or hang out with friends. He will come home (to his house) on the weekends and "party" .... drink.... hang 0ut with friends... & I'm up with the baby alllllll night & day... It's my choice why we don't live together, so I feel like he can do whatever he wants. But I am bitter & jealous! ... HELP! Is he doing anything wrong or is it just me?... How do I cope with this?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:57 AM on Jun. 26, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by DomoniqueWS at 4:01 AM on Jun. 26, 2010
Well, granted it was your choice... but you are TOGETHER. Maybe ask him to take ya'lls baby for a weekend so you can have some you time. I think that is what the real problem is. Your not jealous, but I think you are bitter that he is getting to relax and have some him time and you are not. Ask him and then go from there. GL!
Answer by soonmommyof3 at 4:02 AM on Jun. 26, 2010
Answer by ErinRenee815 at 4:34 AM on Jun. 26, 2010
Answer by NannyB. at 6:38 AM on Jun. 26, 2010
Answer by bjane01 at 9:03 AM on Jun. 26, 2010
I think you are tired, and you need a break. Even if you two were living together, and he was helping out more, I think you would be feeling some resentment and jealousy towards him. First of all, you need talk to him about it. If you don't speak up, he will not know that things are bothering you, and he will continue his behavior. Next, you need to get him or grandma to watch the baby, even if for only an hour, so you can get a break. Constant caring of a child is hard, and everyone deserves a break. I had a similar problem with my DH and our first. We lived together, and he was not helping much. However, he was taught that this was acceptable. His father was never around because he was working all the time. I had to fight with my DH to get him in the game, and eventually he turned around. He still has his moments, but it all started with some conversation. Good luck.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 10:58 AM on Jun. 26, 2010
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