Was it because your situation was different, or why did you make that choice? My daughter that I placed is 3 and I'm pregnant again. I feel that I want to parent this child, my situation has improved and the father of this child will help, even though our financial situation is still far from ideal. I feel like I would have a terrible time trying to explain to my eldest why I kept her sister and not her. I feel like I don't deserve to be a mother to this child, since I chose not to with my first. I felt like I couldn't. I don't want my child to feel like I selected her sister to raise and selected against raising her. Plus, I'm already having the guilt that somebody else could raise my second daughter with less struggles... idk if my first's adoptive parents would take her but then they would be together. I haven't contacted them about that because bf might not sign. Sigh...
Asked by Anonymous at 12:15 PM on Jun. 26, 2010 in Adoption
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Answer by frogdawg at 8:27 PM on Jun. 28, 2010
Learn from the past.Repeating the past to make it easier to explain to your first daughter just makes more and more explaining to more children .I think talking to a therapist/counselor/clergy but not someone connected to agencies or attys is a great idea.My situation had changed dramatically.I needed no ones help to care for my child.I did have secondary infertility after my first.If not for a husband that thought my idea that my infertility was punishment from God was a crazy idea and a great therapist I would not have had such joy in my life.I am from BSE so the adoption was totally closed and I am not in reunion so I wonder/worry often what my first will think.But I now never doubt having my other children was a gift.
Answer by drfink at 6:45 PM on Jun. 26, 2010
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