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Does it count as a good deed if you volunteer to do something and then complain about it after?

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Asked by michelle146 at 2:46 PM on Jun. 27, 2010 in About CafeMom

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  • I'd say yes, as long as you aren't complaining to the person you did it for. The good deed is to help them. If you complain to them or so that it gets back to them that you complained, then you are not helping them since you have made them feel badly. But if you help the old lady across the street and then complain to your coworker at work afterward that it made you late, you aren't hurting the old lady, you are helping her. If you stand there after helping the old lady and complain to her that she has made you late, then you have caused harm, so the good deed doesn't count.

    Answer by Bmat at 2:53 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

  • well, the deed is still done, right? so yeah, it counts. its just crappy of the doer to complain, and makes one wonder what place their heart was in in the first place. meaning, why did they volunteer, if they're just gonna hate it and complain?

    Answer by dullscissors at 2:54 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

  • Well, you still did a good deed, so that helps the person you did something for. However, if they find out that you've been complaining about it, they're probably going to feel guilty that you helped them out. Also, there are health benefits for doing good deeds because it makes you feel happy and fulfilled, but if you've got a negative attitude about it, it's not going to improve your health either.

    Answer by degsyuna at 2:54 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

  • Yeah, just don't let them know you complained about it. Unless it's something to really complain about.
    We help people move all the time and we all complain about it, even the person who is moving. But, what counts is that you were there helping.
    You did something good, you don't have to enjoy it though. :-)

    Answer by Kiwismommy19 at 2:56 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

  • I don't think it is. A good deed isn't just what you do, but also how you handle yourself during, while and after you have done it. Just because you done it, but still complain about it negates it all together. There is nothing okay about complaining about something you agreed to do and it almost always get back to the ones you done the good deed for. A true good deed is done with NO SELFISH feeling or thought of oneself.


    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 3:03 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

  • I say NO. you are a hypocrite if you do.

    Answer by Maggiemae4 at 3:05 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

  • Well it is a good deed done, but it isn't really worth it if you complain about it.
    I think that cancles out the good deed. Good deeds should be wanted, should be welcomed by the doer. They should be done only for the benefit of helping people. Period.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 3:54 PM on Jun. 27, 2010

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