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Top ten things a couple should/shouldn't do together...

What are some things you feel are top priorities in a relationship? Ie. going to bed together, vacationing alone vs. together, living together before married, etc.

What is most important for a relationship to you?


Asked by Anonymous at 12:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (10)
  • Top 10 DOs
    Keep each other filled in on your life
    Make time for each other
    Be willing to compromise
    Solve problems and arguments TOGETHER as soon as everyone is calm
    Always keep the lines of communication open
    Be willing to fulfill the other sexually (so long as it doesn't compromise your morals)
    Find common ground, never be an island
    Remind them that you love them in ways they understand
    Pick your battles wisely

    Top 10 DONTs
    Use ugly words or throw insults
    Expect them to do all the changing and accomodating
    Hold grudges
    Ignore your faults and blame them for everything
    Use sex, affection or speech as a weapon
    Bottle up feelings or expect them to "just know" what's wrong
    Wound their pride on purpose
    Refuse to the the first to apologize when you were wrong
    "let it go" when it's really important to yo

    Answer by Ati_13 at 12:54 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • Be honest and communicate.
    Support your spouse, emotionally and creatively.
    Compliment each other.
    Value each others accomplishments.
    Mutual respect.

    Answer by 3gigglemonsters at 12:39 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • spending time together.

    Answer by sta517 at 12:35 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • should learn to fight fair
    disagree all you want, but watch what you say in anger


    Answer by fiatpax at 12:37 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • My advice is never stop showing each other how much you love them. Make that person the first person you want to please....I do everything possible to make sure my hubbs is happy and he does the same for me. Hug and kiss.....its the language of love. When disagreements come mention "acts" they did that you didnt like, dont put them down as a person. Remember that men are not like women and need a lot of reminding to help around the house. And forgive....dont bring the past disagreements up. And dont feel afraid to be who you really are.

    Answer by AndysQueen at 12:47 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • Get rid of the scorecard. Don't try to one up each other on who did the most chores, who worked the hardest, etc.

    Answer by Izsarejman at 1:12 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • should have similar religious beliefs

    Answer by ria7 at 12:34 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • Listen to each other. My husband sort of freaks me out because he is good at listening and remembering things I have said, even better than I do about what I have said! I'm not good at listening and then when I think about it many times he has warned me about how people are and when I learn for myself it's more painful. I need to learn to focus and listen better.

    Answer by LauraMi261 at 1:16 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • Recognize and accept your mistakes.
    Laugh together.
    Work towards solving your own problems, don't expect your mate to solve them.
    As a woman, recognize that your husband is human, fraught with the same kind of insecurities, frailties and coping mechanisms that every single human has, and cut him some slack if he's not Superman.

    Answer by Fistandantalus at 1:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • The biggest things for hubby and I are:
    Learning how to compromise (because we are both very strong minded people)
    Accepting each other for who we are
    Trying to never go to sleep mad at each other
    Not sleeping apart
    Allowing each other to have an input on raising our children and making decisions for them


    Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 1:37 PM on Jun. 28, 2010