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Should the guy have a say-so in the woman's right to choose?

I am sure we are all familiar with the phrase "a woman's right to choose" but have we ever thought of it from the males perspective? Now I ask you, do you think that the guy should have a say-so or right to choose whether or not they want a child? Of course, they can't choose if the woman has an abortion, but can they opt to not have any parental responsibilities? Should they be able to opt out of supporting a child that they didn't choose to keep?

Don't bash each other ladies... Just an opinion forum...

I personally think that the child's best interest should be served, what ever that is. In some cases, the father being absent and completely gone is in their best interest... Sometimes it isn't...

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Asked by BriHan06 at 7:30 PM on Jun. 28, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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  • unless he's going to carry the fetus inside his body and give birth to it, IMHO then no he does not.

    Answer by DarkFaery131 at 7:32 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • Nope, not until they has to be pregnant for 9 months, give birth and recover :)

    Answer by kjbennett26 at 7:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • you play you pay. want it or not.

    Answer by jennifer588 at 7:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • nope men shouldn't be able to choose one way or another, they know before hand they can "opt out" of sex. if they think they might have to make a painful choice they should choose not to have sex with that person.

    Answer by angevil53 at 7:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • I believe that they should be able to opt out- but it should have to go before a judge, and be set in stone- no contact, ever. Period.

    And, since I know it is going to come up- No a MAN should have no say so in whether or not to terminate... He can have sa say so when he grows a uterus and a vagina.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 7:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • The man does have a choice. He can choose to have sex with a woman or not have sex with a woman. The fact that his choice comes earlier, doesn't mean he doesn't have a choice. I'll grant that he doesn't get as many choices down the line, but he has 100% control over where he sticks his penis.

    Answer by Bezu at 7:33 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • While the baby is in the woman's body, the woman is the one who makes the decisions. It may not be "fair", but that's the way it is.

    Answer by Fallaya at 7:34 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • He should be involved in the decision of whether or not to keep the baby. He should not be able to opt out of support - he had sex, made a baby - he's just as responsible as the woman.

    Answer by Scuba at 7:35 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • I have a man friend who still feels badly that his girlfriend aborted his son. He would have been a good dad to the child.

    Answer by Bmat at 7:35 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

  • He made his choice when he had sex with the woman. He can't choose to "opt out" later.

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 7:36 PM on Jun. 28, 2010

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