DH is SUPER stressed said he wants out. Only been married 1yr and have a baby. Just found out my 18 yr old (previous relationship) got his GF pregnant. DH says this is the last straw, he cant do it anymore. I said I'd move out, he flipped said it's not what he wanted I forced the conversation that made him say it. DH is affectionate, loving ,yet texts he wants a divorce will think about seperation. Said he knows I'm hurting that is why hes affectionate. My son is moving out Im not sure it will help and Im going back to work to help financially. I just dont know how to react. I want to fall apart I don't want a divorce and I know we love each other. I want to save us but am clueless. DH said he loves me, always will and Im his #1 priority because of our daughter. He wants to maintain a close relationship after the divorce he is acting normal, Im totally confused. I have no idea what he is doing and if its possible to save us!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:44 PM on Jun. 29, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Bmat at 2:46 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 2:47 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Answer by Scuba at 2:48 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Answer by munchkinaplenty at 2:49 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Try to get him into Marriage counseling with you, he owes you and his child that. I think he making these decisions based on feelings and not with a clear head. Marriage is not always a cake walk it takes maturity and dedication if he doesn't have that ability. I would say you are better off without him..Good Luck!!
Answer by Mom2princessq at 2:52 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Answer by gdiamante at 2:53 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Your hubby also sounds like he doesn't know what he wants from one minute to the next. First of all your son getting his GF preggo is not his problem it's your sons. So him stressing over that makes no sense. You and him need to sit down and lay EVERYTHING out on the table you need to make sure you know where he stands and what he wants and he understands and knows where you stand and what you want and if it comes down to you can't agree on something you BOTH need to come to a agreement. GL
Answer by raemommy at 2:53 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Be still. When you dont know what to do its best that you dont act on the situation, but rather think about all aspects. With a new baby, work, a teenage son, and a wife, life can be VERY stressful to a man. You have to remember, men are visual beings and he is probably seeing a bad situation getting worst. So I suggest that you sit him down and the two of you have a talk (when the baby is sleep and the oldest away). Let him know how you feel and ask him what you can do to make the situation better. Let him know that you are there for him and that you have his back 100%. Just like us women, men can be a bit over the top. It sounds like he is the kind of guy that needs an outlet, and so he'd rather leave. Offer him a night out with just the two of you. I know it gets crazy at times with a little one, but just dont forget that he needs attention too. Men are like babies, but he has to be num 1. Give him some time...
Answer by sugahmamma at 2:55 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Answer by dejaita at 2:57 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
Not true sugah.. I have met some that truly act like they need to have their diaper changed, my ex was one of them.. but not all men are babies some are actually mature adults.. my dh is.
Answer by munchkinaplenty at 3:06 PM on Jun. 29, 2010
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