My husband and I have a lot of family who won't/can't help themselves but are quick to run to us for financial help. If we helped them all we couldn't meet our own obligations. If we help some but not others that causes a lot of drama as well. It almost reminds me of jealous siblings arguing "but you gave/loaned Johnny $50 the other day it's not fair. Why can't you ever help me?". It's really a mess and we have decided except in a few extreme situations to just say no. I really feel that in most cases to give them money is enabling them not helping them. We have even considered a move out of state to get away from this.
Anyway, quite regularly I start to feel guilty and afraid something awful could happen to us and no one would want to help us. Does this make sense? How can I get past this?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:38 PM on Jun. 29, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs
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Answer by hinson7169 at 3:17 AM on Jun. 30, 2010
No I don't feel haunted when I don't help, I try to help when I can because it's the right thing to do. I don't feel guilty when I can't or don't because no one can help all the time. I try to do more then I think I can, but there is a limit because I have responsibilities to myself and my family as well.
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