I personally don't like them. They have a tendency to be rude.
Cousins--they are the rudest, always have a chip on their shoulder, seek drama
Older brother--is just as bad but he is the type that goes behind everyone's back
Granparents--are always uptight and say " Do what white people do" as some type of moral phrase. it offends me because 1.I'm half white & 2.One race doesn't do everything right and I don't want my kid thinking that
the cousins also tend to be racially ignorant and they have passed it onto their children. one's daughter asked me if I was half white, I told her yes, German & Irish, and she pointed out everything "white" about me. looks and speech. Sorry I'm not from the hood and am not on top of the latest slang....sheesh
now they want to visit? ugh
Advice? they ALL bother me
Answer by Cassidhes_Mom at 11:47 PM on Jun. 30, 2010
Answer by FuzNet at 10:46 PM on Jun. 30, 2010
Answer by krystie-tina at 10:48 PM on Jun. 30, 2010
Answer by sassy_brizzy at 11:01 PM on Jun. 30, 2010
Answer by Tes...Jacksmami at 11:36 PM on Jun. 30, 2010
I agree with the first poster, this is something that you anf your dh need to decide together.
It is never a good thing to have to cut family members out of a child's life. However if they are providing a toxic environment for impressionable children then sadly it is necessary.
If they come to your home, you need to lay down firm ground rules first. I would never allow someone to be rude or disrespectful to me in my own home. They would be asked to leave immediately!
Answer by beeky at 12:10 AM on Jul. 1, 2010