I don't think your too late and she is not too young. This is the time when our children are reaching for independence but still want us there to guide them (even if they act like they don't). When my oldest was 13 I laid the rules down, Stay Safe, Keep in Touch and Show Respect. They are simple rules, make wise choices, call me when there is an issue and you need my help, becareful who you associate with, tell me where you are, who you're with, where you're going and when you'll be home and most importantly to earn the priveledge of independence you will respect my decisions and authority to decide what is right for your safety. We have had a few issues where the best decisions weren't made, but he told me and we worked through it. He did disassociate with those kids as he realized they weren't right for him and his future plans and goals. I use the same tactic with my 12 yr old.
at 10:26 AM on Jul. 1, 2010