My husband grew up Catholic. Baptised, within weeks of his adoption (around 3 months old), first communion, confirmed, we were both married in the parish he grew up in & the same priest who gave him all these prior sacraments. Almost never missed mass.
I too have been Catholic all my life, although I've missed mass more frequently than I've wanted to in the past 3 years since having children. We get into a squabble about going to mass this Sunday. So I ask him (because I've always suspected it, even before we got married)..."Do you even believe in God?"
His answer is what you're expecting.
Confused. Yes, I am. He tells me he thinks christianity, god, the virgin mother, jesus...is all made up. I feel lied to, hurt, and upset. We've had our hard times but have always made it thru. What would you do and how can you stay married if your husband doesn't follow the same beliefs as you do?
Answer by MamaK88 at 3:11 PM on Jul. 3, 2010
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Answer by CAGirl4 at 3:11 PM on Jul. 3, 2010
He's confiding in you something that couldn't have been easy for him to say. Give him space to define his own beliefs while you still follow yours. You can't make him believe something he doesn't.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 3:14 PM on Jul. 3, 2010
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Answer by my2.5boys at 3:22 PM on Jul. 3, 2010
I, like your husband, was raised Catholic but am now an Atheist. It doesn't sound like you were deceived. If you suspected he didn't believe before your marriage you should have asked then. Two, I bet he went through a long journey to let go of the beliefs of his childhood and probably still considered himself a Catholic for a long time. It's hard to give up the beliefs that everyone you love holds, and admit the truths you hold in your heart, when you know that people like your own wife will be disappointed in you. Congratulations on having a good marriage - one in which your husband felt he could tell you that he doesn't believe as you do. I'm sure that wasn't easy for him, knowing as he must have that your reaction wouldn't be positive.
Answer by Bezu at 3:37 PM on Jul. 3, 2010
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