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Would you cheat if he cheated?

My husband cheated on me over a year ago and I have forgiven him. Anyway he has been worried about me cheating since that happened. I have definatley had my fantasies about being with other men but I would never cheat on him because I love him and two wrongs dont make a right. Did you ever get back at your spouse for cheating?

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drs1206

Asked by drs1206 at 12:08 AM on Jul. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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  • If I decided to stay with him, which I wouldn't, I may be tempted to "get even". But I couldn't stay in the first place.
    Orionsgirl

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 12:10 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • I agree, two wrongs do not make a right. Cheating is cheating, and I could never cheat on someone.
    FatGirl239

    Answer by FatGirl239 at 12:11 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • no.
    lovinangels

    Answer by lovinangels at 12:12 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • I have cheated on boyfriends because they've cheated on me, but all those relationships turned into diasters anyways. If my husband cheated on me, it wouldn't be considered cheating the next time I was with another man because my husband and I would be divorced.
    Ash9724

    Answer by Ash9724 at 12:12 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • I told myself if he ever cheated I would leave him but it gets a lot more complicated when it actually happens.
    drs1206

    Comment by drs1206 (original poster) at 12:13 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • No
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 12:13 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • I have been in your shoes, and no, I did not cheat. It would have been just as wrong as what he did, and would not help the situation at all.
    RheaF

    Answer by RheaF at 12:16 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • I dont think I would actually sleep with someone else.... but I would probably start talking to other men and maybe try to "find one"
    glamomomo

    Answer by glamomomo at 12:16 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • No I wouldn't cheat, but because of my personality I would find other ways of getting my point across. Once forgiven though all is done. Then there wouldn't be any need. I would consider washing his underwear with fiberglass curtains or something that would kind of sneak up on him yet he wouldn't be sure if it was intentional or not. You have a good head on your shoulders. No relationship can heal when the hurt continues. I know I wouldn't be giving him a second chance. Hugs to you. I really hope this works out and doesn't ever happen again.
    Lifes-A-Dance

    Answer by Lifes-A-Dance at 12:17 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

  • He has never cheated on me. But if he did, we would go to therapy. I would never cheat on him, for any reason.
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 12:18 AM on Jul. 4, 2010

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