It starts inside of you. The questions you have to ask yourself are...did that person mean to hurt me? Is the relationship I have with this person strong enough to weather a storm of this magnitude? Was this truly an unforgivable act? People do things all the time not meaning to harm the relationships they have, but we also have to be sensitive to the idea that not only are they not perfect, but neither are we! Haven't you ever done something that offended another person by accident? Then you felt bad or guilt and that other person withheld forgivance? How did that make you feel? It does hurt and really the person holding the grudge is far more likely to have problems down the road than the one that they held against. That person eventually moves on away from it but the grudge holder is stuck holding the bag. Is it worth it to you to be stuck holding the bag is the real question here! Good luck!
at 9:46 AM on Jul. 4, 2010