I come from a background of poverty and neglect and for so many years I've had a negative self-image and low self-esteem. My parents could care less about me or my siblings and I wasn't taught how to be assertive and stand up for myself, nor was I given much love or affection. As a result of my negative upbringing, I have struggled with passivity, depression, anxiety, and a variety of other problems.
I want to learn how to love and believe in myself , and let go of all the hurt from my past. I feel bad about myself because I missed out on so many opportunities that other people take for granted, learning how to drive, getting a good education, learning how to use computers, and standing up for myself. I got my GED when I was 19, but I still have to start from scratch because I missed so much school when I was a child. I am back in college and I am making the right steps towads getting a college education, but I need help.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:24 PM on Jul. 4, 2010 in About CafeMom
Self esteem comes from doing... accomplishments. You didnt have the encouragement to try. It wasnt that they didnt GIVE you self esteem... it is that they didnt give you OPPORTUNITY. But YOU can do that. Start by making a list of all the things you HAVE done. You obviously learned to use a computer, you got your GED... those are two GREAT starts to the list!! Now make a list of things you WANT to accomplish. Start small... dont start with "I want to travel through Europe" start with something like "I want to learn to drive" (I think I saw that in your post). Make a list. Then choose one... an easier one... and make a list of what you need to do to accomplish that item. Dont rush yourself... but do work towards it. As you check things off you will feel better and better about yourself.
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