I heard a Story today. At the in laws' The MIL & SIL are watching the kids. The MIL's 14 year old give Those massive sparklers to the 5 & 3 year old. The 3 year old Burns your 5 year old. They DO Nothing about the Big Burn! (She ran a daycare but was shut down.) The FIL runs your 5 y.o into the house to see the Burn & do something. You're nursing your baby. Neither your MIL or SIL cared. Your 5 year old has a Very Awful Burn! Your MIL says it can't be that Bad! Nothing is said or done. No I'm sorry's. You can't blame the 3 year old for burning his 5 year old cousin. You're mad. Your son is burned hurting & refused going to the fireworks! Your DH is taking his mother's side. Not caring your son is Burned. Neither his sister or mother reacted to this Awful burn. What a lack of Care? How can you see your own loved one hurting and burned and do Nothing? How can you & your DH agree? How can you get over this? What's next? Help.Answer Question
Answer by vnw1405 at 4:47 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
Answer by Scuba at 4:48 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
Answer by sati769leigh at 4:49 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
Answer by matthewscandi at 4:51 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
You are talking about people and what they did and didn't do and how awful the burn is but you don't describe the burn. What's up with that? You are more concerned about blame and who did what and who agrees with whom than the burn? What needed to be done about the burn? Was it 2nd or 3rd degree? Did he have to go to the burn unit in the ambulance?
It's difficult when we are nursing and other people don't take care of our other children the way that we would take care of them. It sounds like they may have thought the FIL was taking care of the situation. Some people think you shouldn't panic in front of kids about injuries and act calm. You may have mistaken calm for not caring. Your husband may have taken their side because you are sounding over emotional.
You need to watch your child while breastfeeding
Answer by Gailll at 4:53 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
Answer by shannonsmom555 at 4:53 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
Answer by shannonsmom555 at 4:57 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
I don't have a child, but my Dh will always care what's best for future Ds. He is a worrier! Now, my question for you, is where in the world were you when the 3year old burnt your son? And did you see the three year old burn him, or are you ASSUMING? If your son is fine, then I understand why you're mad at MIL... I have my own problems with my own MIL... It will be really hard to let her just come over and baby~sit my FDs! I seriously wouldn't trust her...
Answer by smokisses at 4:58 PM on Jul. 5, 2010
Your husband is telling you that this is so important that he would say the word divorce. I'm thinking that he is upset about you being so over emotional, blaming others, and so stuck on the idea that his mother should have said she was sorry. He may be fed up with your drama. Since you have two young children you need to look at your behavior. Is the drama worth it? Is making a big deal out of this worth getting a divorce?
Answer by Gailll at 4:59 PM on Jul. 5, 2010