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Needing some HELP!!!

My step son is 10. He has been stealing, getting into trouble at school, and just a very unruly child. We caught him huffing nail polish remover, striking the 6 year old in the head with a bowling pin, and we are out of ideas. We had him in inhome therapy for 2 years and counseling for 2 years. His mom said that she wanted to try and help but 3 weeks later she is saying that she cant do it either. He has been diagnosed with ADHD but there is no reason for him to act like this. He is disciplined at home. We have tried the awards route, we put him in a mental hospital for children for a week to see if they could help, and Nothing. His therapists are out of ideas, we are out of ideas. And now his mom isnt wanting to do anything either. WHAT can we do to get him help so he doesnt hurt himself or anyone else?? We checked into having him placed in an academy but they want 5,500 dollars PER month for him to go there.

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:39 PM on Jul. 5, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • His mother really needs to be involved with this. She needs to sit him down and talk to him. LISTEN TO HIM. He is acting out for a reason and I believe that that reason stems from his relationship with his mother.

    Answer by keyaziz at 7:41 PM on Jul. 5, 2010

  • We sat down and talked to him a week after being with his mom and he said he wanted to live with her. Now she is sending him back home. He is going to turn our home upside down and act out even worse now.. Thats what I am affraid of. His mom doesnt do anything and it makes me so mad she wont help her son when we have been trying so hard to do it.

    Answer by sassysixx at 7:43 PM on Jul. 5, 2010

  • Chores, A lot of them. the more he get in trouble the more chores he does. And the less extra things things he should get.

    Answer by louise2 at 7:45 PM on Jul. 5, 2010

  • Is he getting medication for the ADHD? If so, his behavior will improve. If not, that could be the reason why nothing is helping. Is he seeing a child psychologist or a counseler? A Psychologist has a PHD and is better able to find out what is causing the behavior. Counsler do not have as much schooling. A new psychologist may be of better assistance to helping him. They don't cure but they help assess the problem and help families come up with ways to better deal with and address the behaviors. You can't do anything about the mom not working to help her son but you can do what you can to do is do what you can for him.
    These behaviors may be his way of not being able to express something that has happened to him or is happening to him. As a parent its frustrating because we see the bad behavior and not the underlying causes. He needs a new psychologist.

    Answer by lawmom27 at 12:33 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

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