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How to Deal with Teenagers?

There are several things you need to keep in mind if you’re going to start talking to your teen about the character that will support good decisions, including waiting for sex until marriage:

- Look at it from the teen’s perspective.

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Asked by leannabenn at 8:08 AM on Jul. 6, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • I dont think anyone should wait until marriage to have sex. I think you should know whats out there sexually. Im not saying you should sleep with everyone but i am saying that you should experience more then one person in your lifetime. Sex is a very big part of a marriage and if you are not sexually compatiable then you are more likely to cheat on your spouse just to see whats out there. Instead of practicing no sex before marriage I think we should make sure the teenagers are aware of having protective sex because its unrealistic to think they wont be having sex.

    Answer by drs1206 at 8:13 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • Everyone is entitled to choose between having sex or not before marriage, but protective sex is the key. People look at sex too casualy and there are way too many unwanted children out there.

    Answer by elizabr at 8:17 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • teach them to have respect not only for others but for THEMSELVES, no sex until marriage is a nifty idea for some people but how realistic is that? I think they should know how to be safe and smart about it.

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 8:36 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • Obviously, we've all been teenagers and know what it's like to have sexual feelings. Males and females have different reasons for having sex and most times are at the opposite ends of the spectrum. Girls think they are in love and guys just want to get laid. A one-night stand is purely lustful and young minds have a hard time processing that -- with exceptions, of course. Being a virgin until marriage is very rare, but kids need to realize the emotional impact this has on them at that moment. Lust is never binding. Waiting until marriage is wishful thinking, but taking it slow, getting to know someone beyond just a sex partner, is a smarter thing to do. As a parent, the generation gap, parents "not knowing anything", kids are going to do what they want to do, not understanding the impact this makes in their life. You can't stop it, and education is crucial.

    Answer by Maria7823 at 11:29 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

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