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how can someones parents just kick them out when they are tring to get ahead

There is a young couple with a 2 year baby. my dh and i are helping to get there life strate my dh got the man a job with him let him move in to our home the young woman has a job were they are from so she stayed in there home town so she could stay working as well to get on there feet. She was living with her parents there. She came down to spend time with her dh when it was time to go home the parents told them don't bother coming here so now we have all 3 living with us. We can't just put her and the baby out it is not right that her parents did.. I am a person that needs space and now we have a house full....

 
cmgb08

Asked by cmgb08 at 8:26 AM on Jul. 6, 2010 in General Parenting

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Answers (14)
  • Have a meeting and discuss the entire situation. Set up guidelines. Be honest that you need space and help them find a way to get out of there permanently. You know how the saying goes...........you are earning your wings. God bless you and your husband.
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 8:33 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • you never know...that may of had good reason. they couldve been taking advantage of the situation. blowing all their money and living for free
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 8:28 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • i have a great idea. What you need to do (to help) is take a portion of their money and set it aside for them each week. Tell the wife or dh thats what you will do for them. Just be polite and ask her if she needs help saving up you would like to help her by doing this.
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 8:30 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • You don't know the parents side of the story.
    lovinangels

    Answer by lovinangels at 8:29 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • i understand them trying to get on the'r feet but shes not a kid anymore and shouldnt be relying on her parents. Maybe she has always mooched on her parents and they're fed up. You dont exactly know the situation between her and her parents. Im sorry you have a house full of people but you need to tell them that they have a certain amount of time to live there then they need to find somewhere lese to stay. They'll end up taking advantage of your kindness. Trust me I know from personal experience.
    drs1206

    Answer by drs1206 at 8:29 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • I don't know it's hard, however the parents have a longer history with them then you do, so maybe they know more about the couple and they have their reasons. I'm glad they have you for support.

    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 8:30 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • call and ask her [parents why.... especially if these people are going to be living in your home with your family. you never know what these people could have done there no matter how well you think you know them
    ibebreezy

    Answer by ibebreezy at 8:30 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • ...if she refuses your help then i wouldnt allow her to stay there long because how do you know they are saving money to get their own place
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 8:32 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • I am sure the parents have a reason. At this point if you are going to let them stay with you there has to be a plan in place. Talk with your DH and decide what the two of you are willing to do, how long you will do it and what you expect from these two. Then sit them down and put it in writing. Definately have a 'get out' date!
    mom2queenie2004

    Answer by mom2queenie2004 at 8:44 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

  • The husband has been giving us his pay check to save for him we give him so much to live for the week and the rest i have put up. So i do know that he is tring to get his family out of there house.
    cmgb08

    Comment by cmgb08 (original poster) at 8:47 AM on Jul. 6, 2010

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