I am puzzled by people trying to figure out how to forget. Forgiveness is difficult but to me it means you have run through the emotions and don't carry the hurt around anymore. Why should you forget? Wouldn't that be the same as forgetting that fire is hot? You know this person will do you wrong if you allow it, so remember that. You got hurt and the hurt was there to teach you. I just don't understand why it would be necessary to forget the action. Yes, let go of the hurt but never the lesson. Any thoughts to help me understand will be appreciated.
Answer by fiatpax at 10:08 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:59 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by elizabr at 9:57 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by collier5 at 10:07 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by SAHMinIL2 at 10:09 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by ibebreezy at 10:09 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by happymommy1105 at 10:10 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
I've always thought of the phrase, "Forgive & forget" not so much literally forget, but more like move on. Once you forgive, you may never forget the offense or you may still feel the hurt after the offence, but you can move on from the need to rehash the situation over & over & continually holding the offending person accountable, which lets you release the burden of carrying the grudge of unforgiveness.
I also think there are some situations we allowed ourselves to get into which resulted in hurt, that we need to remember so we don't put ourselves in the same situation again. I personally just go by the "forgive & move on" rule. That works best for me.
Answer by ghostwriter777 at 10:21 AM on Jul. 6, 2010
Answer by Peregrine at 11:30 AM on Jul. 6, 2010