He cheated for 3 years.
I found out 3 years ago.
We have 2 young daughters together and a very happy life right now. When I found out, we did counseling and he's proven that he made a mistake and he's not going to do it again.
That said.. We fight once every 3 or 4 months about it. I don't bring it up in between and I don't rub his nose in it. He's allowed to go out with friends etc. BUT every few months I'll have a nightmare about or a hard day where I get reminded of it and I need his comfort and reassurance. This last fight a few days ago he said, "That's it. It's been 3 years and you are no longer allowed to bring it up. I'm tired of hearing about and being reminded that I screwed up."
Who's right here?? I think he needs to be supportive, it's not like every 4 months I'm calling screaming at him about what he did! I just need some reassurance every once in awhile!
Should I have to hide my feelings??
Asked by Anonymous at 3:45 PM on Jul. 7, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Jademom07 at 3:47 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
Answer by Laila-May at 3:47 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
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Answer by older at 3:51 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
I am with him on this. You decided to stay with him, after finding out he had an affair. You have know right bringing it up anymore. If you trust him. Leave it alone. It does not sound like you have let it go.
Answer by louise2 at 3:53 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
I agree with Laila-May. My husband didn't quite perform the act of "cheating" but the intentions where there and it was a few times, this was 3 years ago. I don't throw it in his face but once in a while it will come up and we fight about it, because I do get insecure for whatever reason, even though I know he will never jeopardize our marriage or family like that again. You're going to get alot of opinions here about who is right and who is wrong, my husband gets upset but all said and done, he put us in that position, trust was broken and it takes alot for me personally to even trust someone, to me coming from my husband is the ultimate betrayal. He understands how I feel, he knows he messed up and tells me "he will spend the rest of his life making it up to me" and he's ok with that. Try to explain to your husband that it's not about him doing something now it's about you continuing to deal with what took place. GL!
Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 3:54 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
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