I have a 5 yr old DD and my SO is not bio dad. I am also pregnant (8 weeks) My SO told me that he doesn't think he can provide financially for a family of 4 (even though I work) and he is worried that he won't be a good parent. He doesn't want me to have the baby...
My question is NOT whether I should have the baby - I already know the answer to that.
My SO is a father-figure to my DD and the ONLY fulltime one she has. (Her bio dad is a flake) My SO is so worried about being a good parent to the point that he wants me to get an abortion, but why isn't he worried about being a good parent with my DD? He already is kind of a parent... He does try with her and mostly does a good job. Someone please explain his thought pattern to me, I am really confused and worried that he doesn't care about being a parent to my DD.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:20 PM on Jul. 7, 2010 in Relationships
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Answer by Linds2Horse at 4:27 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
may be that even though your dd sees him as father figure he does not have to make the same parenting decsions that you do. you primarily make the life decision for her and he is afraid having to be a full time bio father.
Answer by karglynn at 4:27 PM on Jul. 7, 2010
I just think that he is panicking and hopefully it will pass. The whole idea of him being the actual father of a child may be spooking him. Lets all remember that men are actually babies that never grew up. So, You have already made your decision to have your baby so just play it cool. Don't make a big issue about how HE feels. Just ignore him and give him time to wrap his mind around the whole idea. If he's worthy he will stay. If not, you have a beautiful baby to look forward to. Either way he/she is coming no matter what he says or does. He'll probably just relax after a while, just give him time. Sometimes it's like a panic reaction to just run away but in time you realize what is important. That's my opinion, whether I am right is another story. Good Luck and stay cool (temperature wise too)!
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 4:27 PM on Jul. 7, 2010