I soo hear you! i moved away to another state, after I was so badly burned being the only one to do holidays in my family with no help. Then I missed doing it, for my kids. So we moved back and I took another stand....
Call everyone that is coming and have a pre planned out menu, then when you get a yes or no, to them coming, write down what they should be bringing, food, pop, etc. Gift cards to cover groceries, gas cards for pick ups etc.
No reason cause you wanna do it, they wanna come, they cannot help out in some way!
Good luck, and if you have kids, or just enjoy the gatherings, then remember if not you doing who will then? Cause once I moved, it sucked having a christmas with just us five!
at 11:45 PM on Jul. 7, 2010