Within the last couple of weeks my son has changed. He is constantly giving me an attitude. He tells me what to do, told me to shut up once, tells me what he's doing instead of asking. It's like he's completely different. I reason with him. Telling him that I make the rules and I'm the adult and he's the kid. I spanked him once and have given him time outs a few times. If he doesn't get what he wants he throws a tantrum, whines, gives me dirty looks. I don't know what to do? I feel like I'm constantly yelling at him. It's exhausting. He's usually such a good boy. I ask him if he does this to his dad he says no only to me. He says I don't listen to him. Which I do. But I don't let him do what ever he wants. I doubt his dad does either. Why does he do this to me and not his dad? What's the difference? Does anyone else go through this?Answer Question
Answer by renea20 at 11:00 PM on Jul. 8, 2010
Answer by txdaniella at 11:00 PM on Jul. 8, 2010
Answer by leah_rai at 11:01 PM on Jul. 8, 2010
You need to learn some new parenting and communication skills now that your son is getting older. You have been using an authoritarian parenting style (punishment), psychologists know that authoritarian parenting is most effective. You can read more about parenting styles by searching on google.
A good first book for toddlers is Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary. A good book for school age kids is How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. You son is kind of between the two books. You might want to look at both. I was a single, disabled mom of 3 sons. I had to parent from a wheelchair. The info I am giving you can change your life.
Answer by Gailll at 11:05 PM on Jul. 8, 2010
Answer by joysings at 11:08 PM on Jul. 8, 2010
Answer by HCBallek at 11:10 PM on Jul. 8, 2010
Answer by mistynights234 at 12:44 AM on Jul. 9, 2010
Answer by togo90210 at 3:03 AM on Jul. 9, 2010
This is a phase, and it will pass (and come and go often)
First, always be consistent with rewards and punishments. Second, remember that a child who is the most unlovable needs love the most; often an obnoxious child just needs a hug.
I can't recommend strongly enough Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort. You can learn more at http://www.naomialdort.com/
Answer by rkoloms at 7:22 AM on Jul. 9, 2010
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