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Do you think married men and women should have friends of the opposite sex?

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Asked by AngiDas at 8:48 AM on Jul. 9, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I don't have a problem with it.

    Answer by andrea96 at 8:49 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • I don't really understand why it matters whether or not someone is married who his/her friends are and what the gender of those said friends. I have many friends of the opposite sex and would certainly not stop being their friend if I got married.

    Answer by AmeliasMommy206 at 8:51 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • Yes.

    Answer by Bezu at 8:52 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • Why not?? only insecure couples have a problem with this!

    Answer by older at 8:54 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • It depends on what they do together as friends.

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:54 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • I personally don't see why not. As long as your and your spouse have open communication and understanding and has not had a history of cheating. I have had a male best friend for years and my SO has not had a problem with it, because he knows there are no feelings at all involved. My best friend and I are more like brother and sister, and we have been friends for about 15 years now.

    Answer by ktlyn79s at 8:55 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • Sure.

    Answer by SWasson at 8:55 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • I don't think it's weather they should or shouldn't. My best friend is a man, we've been best friends since Kindergarten, he is more of a brother to me than any of my actual brothers. I would not date a guy if he felt weird about my friendship with him, i could not do it. He is my best friend & i would never EVER drop him because of some stupid jealous boyfriend. My DH also has female friends that he was friends with before we met. It's all good. I trust him %100 & i trust his female friends %100. I would never in a million years get into a relationship, then ask him to drop his female friends. That is SO SELFISH. If the circumstances are good with the friends of the opposite sex, it's totally fine. It's when one of them makes a new friendship out of the blue that can be harmful. My ex husband met some chick he claimed to be platonic friends with, funny how they ended up having sex after i left him.


    Answer by samurai_chica at 8:56 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • Agreed !!! Same answer as my friend Older why not only insecure couples have a problem with this!

    Answer by MTM at 8:56 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

  • I see no problem here, UNLESS, the said husband/wife had in intimate relationship before being married to the person in question.

    Answer by lilmouser04 at 8:58 AM on Jul. 9, 2010

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