so we have been together (unmarried) for 4 years. i have 2 children (1 from a prev relationship) and i am a SAHM working part time hours. i pay for small things like the internet & water bill and household items, he pays rent, lights, and 1/2 the car pmt and thats it. hes moody bc he cant save up enough money at his job to pursue music, and wont talk with me about it. he just makes nasty comments like how he hates spending his money on bills and feels he shouldnt have to anymore. he said it shouldnt be his responsibility and he doesnt feel obligated to pay the bills (he brought this up to me when handing me the money for the rent). he also said we ought to move home with out mothers (seperately) so he can save up, or for me to (unlawfully) get us into Section 8 (his income would be too high). i told him that if he wants to move home thats fine and i can let him off the hook and i will take care of myself! i cant make him chose
Asked by Anonymous at 11:24 AM on Jul. 9, 2010 in Relationships
My dh has been in a band ever since I met him. When he joined his current band, I told him things will be different this time. Family and job come first, period. When he starts making the same amount of money from his band as his job, then we'll talk. We really haven't had a problem since I put my foot down. The one time he did, I packed the kids and we went to my parents for the night. He got the idea when he came home from his gig to an empty house.
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Answer by Syphon at 11:30 AM on Jul. 9, 2010
Oh man, I don't envy you.Honestly you might want to just walk away & let him go through "his phase", & see what your doing & what you want for a while.Otherwise your in for a long cold ride, with a child...I mean 2 it's even harder.I'd say things differently "IF" he wanted to keep his job, *&* be a responsible good dad still too, but that's not it,..right..I think you have to make a pro's & con's list & do whats best for you & your little ones.~ HUGS & LUCK to you
Answer by Stefono at 11:45 AM on Jul. 9, 2010
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