Our 16 (almost 17) year old cat died this morning. We've known he was sick, and we'd been thinking about taking him to the vet for euthanasia counseling to put him to sleep, but he didn't make it. He had several seizures this morning and then he was out of it, he finally died about half an hour later (while we were debating what to do).
Anyway, we have never had a pet die on us before and we were unsure what to do. We called the Dumb Friends League and decided just to take him there to the pet intake and have him cremated in a mass cremation. We filled out paperwork, and then the lady took him back. We had already said our goodbyes while he was dying and we were there for him until he took his last breath, so we really didn't need to say anything else. But now I feel so bad for just leaving him. Did we do the right thing? Will I stop feeling guilty? We couldn't afford an individual cremation, and now I feel bad about it.
Answer by neonangel2188 at 9:06 PM on Jul. 10, 2010
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Answer by Ricanmami1 at 6:13 PM on Jul. 9, 2010
You didn't do anything wrong, what you are feeling right now is grief because of the loss, no matter what you did you would be feeling the same right now. Let yourself feel sad without attaching guilt to it, if you can.
If after some time has passed and you decide that you wished had had done things differently, it's okay, just use this experience for the next time.
I'm really sorry for your loss, it's just a hard thing to deal with, your cat knew he was loved and that's what matters. You can still have a memorial for him with your family where you share pictures and memories.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:27 PM on Jul. 9, 2010
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