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When visiting friends, do you feel obligated to bring something?

Say you are going over to a friends for lunch, dinner, coffee, or just a visit. Do you feel like you (or the guest) should bring something for their hosts? What is appropriate to bring?

When would you NOT expect (or bring) something?

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Asked by ethans_momma06 at 6:03 PM on Jul. 10, 2010 in Just for Fun

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  • If it's just a visit, then no, nothing is expected. If it's a big family type get together, yeah, I'd like everyone to bring a little something, and I do as well. Even if it's just a couple 2 liters of soda, ice, cups, plates, some side, or dessert, something should be brought.

    Answer by Kiwismommy19 at 6:05 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • I always feel obligated to bring something. I like to bring something because we will be having food/drinks there, and it is nice to receive something different from others.

    Answer by QandA at 6:07 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • I always call and say "What can I bring?"

    Answer by karamille at 6:11 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • For lunch, no; for dinner, I feel like I should bring a bottle of wine or something.

    Answer by SWasson at 6:12 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • If I am going to someone's house for dinner, yes I always bring something. But if I'm just stopping at a friends house during the day for a play date or something I don't usually bring anything. Sometimes I'll bring stuff for all of the kids water guns, or balloons or stuff to make cupcakes with.

    Answer by Syphon at 6:13 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • I always ask what would they like me to bring, and if they say nothing, I bring something anyway, usually a candle or something for the host.

    Answer by Pam2u4u at 6:16 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • I was raised to always bring something. even if they say its ok that I don't

    I just do it automatically. usually its a coffee and timbits (I only really end up going out to playdates during the day)

    Answer by hypermamaz at 6:39 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • No, not for a simple visit. If it's a lunch or dinner party for a group of our friends than I'll ask whichever friend is hosting if they could use some help - either by coming early and setting up or by bringing along a dessert, drinks, or appetizer. If I'm at a friend's house longer than expected and they invite me and my kids to eat with them then I'll help cook and clean up.

    Answer by momof2inCT2007 at 9:47 PM on Jul. 10, 2010

  • If we have been invited over for a meal I always ask what I can bring. Sometimes people say nothing, but I still bring at least a bottle of wine, or a dessert. If I am just visiting with a friend then I don't feel obligated to bring anything, but if invited for a meal or some kind of special occasion I just think it is polite to offer and even if they say they have everything taken care of to at least bring a plate of cookies or something to share.

    Answer by KTMOM at 12:04 PM on Jul. 13, 2010

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