My Bf...well ex bf as of tonight is ridiculous. he lies hes self centered, hes manipulative, hes a sociopath, an alcoholic, a drug abuser, who I thought was recovering, but obviously isn't. I have tried for over 6 years to help him, to heal him, to love him unconditionally, and he has done nothing but lie to me, leave me, hurt me, physically and emotionally, all while telling me he loves me ofcourse. I'm 23 weeks pregnant and I just can't take it anymore, but I don't understand why he is this way. I dont understand what i see in him or why it has been so hard for me to leave him or get over him, because i've tried to before, and he talks me back into it. Why is he like this? How do I get over him?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:50 AM on Jul. 11, 2010 in Relationships
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Answer by Niki_sd at 5:56 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
Because he's an alcoholic and drug addict and he can't control his behavior. You can't help him, he has to get help and work really hard on getting better. There is nothing you can do to make this happen, it is completely out of your control. You need to leave and take care of yourself and your baby. Your child doesn't need to be raised in this situation.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:44 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
First of all, he is an addict. I know that is not a good excuse, but that is the only reason that he is the way he is. And there is nothing you can do for him. He has to be willing to stop the drugs and alcohol and get help. If he is not willing to do this, there is nothing you can do but help yourself. Second, you love him. There is nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you human. You can't control who you fall in love with. That is part of being human. Also, he probably does love you. His problem is the drugs and alcohol come first, and he can't control that either. That is part of being an addict. You need to take care of yourself and your baby. That is the most important thing. Be there for your boyfriend, on your time. Not his. Tell him in order to be a part of babies life then he must get clean and stay clean and go to AA and NA. Good luck.
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