time outs are not really working. my son is the type that acts naughty to get a reaction... for example he pushes kids in the pool at our condo... the older kids provoke him to push them in then he gets confused and will push a child in that doesnt want to be pushed.... im constantly telling the older kids he doesnt understand who he can and can not push.... so please dont tell him to push you in... mybe the time outs need to be longer then 3 min...i find myself yelling alot more then i should. is there anything else other then time out and spanking for a 3yr old thank u!Answer Question
Answer by PROGENITOR at 3:57 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
Time-outs are a form of punishment and punishments don't stop bad behavior or teach good behavior. In most kids they make behavior worse. Punishment based parening is authoritarian. Authoritative parenting style is most effective. You can google and find out about parenting styles.
Love & Limits by Elizabet Crary is a great first parenting book that is a problem solving method based on prevention. She has a website called star parenting. There are many things parents can do. You can use logical consequences. If your child pushes at the pool you leave the pool. No warnings, counting, lectures, ect. If you do this with a couple of things your child learn you mean what you say and say what you mean.
Answer by Gailll at 4:56 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
You can reward good behavior. Your child may be too young to go to the pool and you can wait until next year. You could keep your child next to you or in a carrier. You can prepare your child before you go about expected behavior. You can teach your child some sign language so you can communicate from a distance in noisy situations.
I have a strong willed 22 mo grandson. I know how difficult it can be. It is such a pleasure when you are able to keep your child under control and can take your child anywhere and know your child will behave. There are lots of ways of learning; books, websites, dvds, courses, workshops, conferences, ect.
Answer by Gailll at 5:07 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
Answer by DomoniqueWS at 6:00 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
What worked for us, was putting our daughter's favorite item (Bankie Bay) in a closet for ten minutes.
I think that the best parenting book ever is Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves by Naomi Aldort. You can learn more at http://www.naomialdort.com/
Answer by rkoloms at 7:36 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
Answer by elizabr at 11:22 AM on Jul. 11, 2010
Time out should not be longer than his age. He needs to know that he cannot push anyone, no matter what. He is not old enough to decipher what is right and wrong yet and should not be allowed to push anyone. Tell him what you expect of him before you go to the pool. If he acts bad, give him a warning/time out. If he does it again, take him in the house. Tell him that you already told him what you expected from him, and he did not act as he should, and that is why he is back in the house. There are certain instances when you have to ignore his behavior. If he is throwing a fit, you let him know that it wrong, but do not sit there yelling at him about it, just ignore him. If he does something wrong, you need to pull him aside, tell him that it is wrong and tell him why. Get down on his level. It is amazing how children react when we come to their level. Good luck.
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