ok i have been with my husband for 6 years when i met him his son was 5 years old. i never was around my step son much becuase his mother kept him away from his dad out of spite. fast forward 6 years....we get my step son every other weekend now, which i helped my husband fight for btw...every thing is fine, i like him being around becuase he plays with his little 4 year old brother (me and my husbands son together) farely well.
this summer we have my step son for 1 month.. this is the longest he has even been around me and he is starting to show charictaristics and behaviors that i dont like. for one he is being very competetive with my son..everything he says or does is like a fight for attention against my son.. his behavior is getting worse and worse..ive tried reasoning with him, he is 10 years old. my husbnad has also tried. its getting to the point where his presense really annoys me, where i dont like him being aroun
Asked by Anonymous at 10:04 AM on Jul. 12, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by samurai_chica at 10:13 AM on Jul. 12, 2010
I agree with samurai...take him to have "dates" alone with no little brother. I have an almost 10 year old and a 3 year old. They compete to do everything (not necessarily for our attention either, just competitive nature of kids). Sometimes we use it to our advantage, like when my 3 year old doesn't want to eat dinner, she sees her big brother has eaten more, she wants to beat him, and then will actually eat (she's under weight btw). But my son was the one and only for so long until my daughter came along. We sensed jealousy fairly quickly. He wasn't competitive tho, he was just very emotional. We started having a few days a month where one or both of us did something with him alone, with no little sister tagging along. It made a world of difference.
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