I love my SO dearly and I know he loves me too. Some days I can't picture my life without him and some days I wonder why we're together. We just don't see eye to eye on much... some stupid things, but some are important things. Deep down I know we can both find people who we are more compatable with, and its killing me to think that I should let him go. Like I said, I love him dearly. Our relationship has been rocky for awhile now and we're going to sit down this week and try to talk through it.... My question is - Is it fair or right for me to hang onto him simply because I love him and we have good days 60% of the time, or is it better to let him go knowing he can/will find someone who can make him happier? If it's better to let him go, how do i do that? We don't have children together but my DD loves him dearly.Answer Question
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Answer by Mom_2_cuties at 11:18 AM on Jul. 12, 2010
If you're having good days 60% of the time then I definitely think there is something beautiful worth saving here. I just think you need to learn to work together.
When my dh and I need to discuss an important issue, we bring it up when we are both calm and not likely to be distracted (at this time of year, we go for a walk). Then one us will say :"what are your thoughts about this, how should we handle this?" We may not agree with everything the other said but we might agree on some points. We then hash it out until we have a plan that we are both happy with. It has worked for us for 22 years.
Answer by beeky at 11:28 AM on Jul. 12, 2010
I think you need to sit down with him and talk it out. Do you BOTH want to keep the relationship? If so then both of you talk about what the 'problems' are, and what you can both do to work thru them and make the relationship a good one. I don't know if this would be something that you would be interested in but couples counseling might be something to think about and consider.
My hubs and I have been married 19 years and I have found that Communication is essential, as well as being able to listen to the other person, and being able to make compromises. A relationship is a two-way street and involves some giving and some taking by both people.
I wish you luck and hope it all works out!
Answer by MizLee at 11:35 AM on Jul. 12, 2010