I have a 9 year old girl who has a horrible attitude right now. I am divorced but her step dad has been in the picture since she has been 20 months old. We have a 2 year old boy and since then her attitude has been rude, mean ........any advice?
Don't let her draw you into an argument. You can get your point accross to her without engaging. Stay calm. When she says something rude or mean let there be a consequence. You can have an immediate consequence, or it can come later. Say, for instance she says something rude. You ignore it at that moment, and then you decide to go for ice cream or whatever she might want to do. When she assumes she is coming too, say, "Oh, what a bummer. I know you'd like to come, but I need to relax with people who speak to me in a respectful way." Then, leave her home while you go. Obviously, you need to have arranged someone to stay with her, but make sure it is no fun for her. Another thing you can do is when she asks you to do something for her say, "Oh, I wish I could, but I am just too tired. It really wears me out when people say mean/rude things to me. Maybe you can do something nice to help me feel better."
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 5:30 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by layh41407 at 5:19 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by NannyB. at 5:24 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
I think the best thing you can do is continue to remind her that she is the child and you are the parent and try to correct her behavior by telling her she will have consequences for the things she says or the way she acts, and just being consistent. I have a 9 year old as well as a 14 and 13 year old and 14 year old and it's a constant reminder in my household about what roles everyone plays in the house, I don't think this will ever stop, good luck!
Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 5:16 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by k.k.909 at 5:20 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by 5isenoughforme at 5:42 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by xmama_bellax at 10:38 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by blue_glass_mama at 10:56 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Some times we do things that we don't want to do but we as parents we have to step up and hold the tween accountable for their actions behaviorand such. when I sent my daughter to bed early she hated it no TV lights out go to sleep she said you are mean she calls out for me to come in the room and wanted to talk about it I told her that we will talk tomorrow it is in her best interest to go to sleep, then she text ed me then I went in there again and took her cell phone away then she went to sleep.... Next morning we talked she had to earn her cell phone back and ask for things to watch TV if she can drink this or that or what snacks she can have.
If they don't like you at the time of disaplain then you are doing your job. Hang in there.
Answer by paurad at 11:40 PM on Jul. 13, 2010
Answer by batjmom at 7:03 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
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