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Attn: Moms of Teenaged Girls: At what age should a teen girl begin to date?

Age 15, 16, 17, or 29 years? Curfew? Parameters? Group or single date? How well do you know the boy and his family? Other criteria?

 
SouthernLady7

Asked by SouthernLady7 at 11:16 PM on Jul. 13, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (8)
  • My dd was 16 when she went on her first one on one date. Her bf at the time was someone we knew well and his family too. They were to young to drive so had to be dropped off and picked up, ( which helps!) She was almost 17 when she went on a one on one date with a boy who drove. The same rules apply, NEVER get into a car with someone who has been drinking or smoking (weed) and no sex until you are 40! No really, that is a whole different conversation. I need to know where you are going and who is there and all that. Curfew is 11 pm. You better call if you are late and if you are late you better be on your way home! Group dates are a good way of starting, my dd always did things in groups at around 14-15 the mall, movies, beach. Always meet the boy, never have him call or text and say "I'm here" they always have to come in and see me!! Good luck!!
    wallmom1

    Answer by wallmom1 at 1:18 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • I've told my daughter: age 16 with a group, no alcohol, drugs or (hopefully) sex. Curfew is 10pm. She hasn't begun dating yet (she's 14). And most definitely, I must meet the boy beforehand and his parents. I'm presently pumping as much home training, self respect/esteem and morals into her now as I can. Fortunately, she seems to incorporated my beliefs of not wearing a lot of makeup nor dressing as a hoochie mama.
    Ewadun

    Answer by Ewadun at 11:21 PM on Jul. 13, 2010

  • 16. although, I would think a boy/girl party at my house would be okay. Good to let the girl see how lame boys are and laugh about it with her friends and (hopefully) me before she enters the world of dating and has to realize that on her own:)
    bloomsr

    Answer by bloomsr at 11:26 PM on Jul. 13, 2010

  • 16,group dates. Chauperoned by an adult thats just me though!
    MarGeee

    Answer by MarGeee at 11:42 PM on Jul. 13, 2010

  • 14, single dates, 16 is way too old to start actually dating
    aliishott2

    Answer by aliishott2 at 11:48 PM on Jul. 13, 2010

  • I'm actually not "sold" on this dating thing at all! I think that it's okay to have friends that are guys, but as far as "dating"....I have a completely different opinion on this. girl meets boy, they date, one of them does something "goofy" and they break up, girl meets another boy, they date, someone does something silly, they break up...and so on and so on.....girl meets boy, they date, they get married, someone does something hurtful, they divorce......anyone else see a pattern. I think in this "dating" world, we teach them to just discard someone when something troublesome arises. There's got to be a better way.
    TimandMely4ever

    Answer by TimandMely4ever at 9:24 AM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • Our house rules are the same for boys and girls. They can "group date" or go to dances or school events with a group before highschool, but no single dates til they are in highschool. Once they start HS they can date one on one. And I do not have curfews, I rather know where they are and they have their cell phone on them so I am never more than a button away... Although, if they don't pick up when I call - there will be some hell...
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 12:02 AM on Jul. 15, 2010

  • Well said Sabrina!
    Kids need freedom and need to learn from their mistakes. Obviously, they shouldn't be going out having sex and drinking. But if there is a friend or classmate who would like to take them on a date, why not? They aren't exactly getting married. :)
    Morgs7531642

    Answer by Morgs7531642 at 3:09 PM on Jul. 18, 2010