I've been been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and 2 weeks ago, he asked if he could meet my son. Earlier in the relationship he said he felt we should wait til we got to that point in the relationship before he meets him and I agreed. well my son is 15 months and he suggested we take him to the zoo. he's been under tremendous stress lately with a job situation so it hasn't come up since he asked to meet him. so i fugure not to push it, but im not sure when i should bring it up if at all? The second part to my question is, my son has a lot of anxiety when it comes to strangers/new people. im afraid if my son screams when he does see him it may ruin it...hes a great guy and i dont want my son to be afraid of him from the beginning then never give my boyfriend a chance...any suggestions on how i can help my son not be so afraid of new people and how to bring up him meeting my son? Thanks ladies :)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:56 AM on Jul. 14, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Jademom07 at 9:59 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 10:00 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
Answer by older at 10:01 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
3 months isn't really that long so I wouldn't bring it up unless he does. Do you want him to meet your son? That's your decision. You can tell your boyfriend about your son's fear so he has a heads up and don't worry about your son ruining it because if an adult takes a little kid's fear that personal you don't want him around any way.
Answer by Cindy18 at 10:02 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
Have your BF bring him a nice shiny present that he can open. This works on every child. Everyone LOVES the bearer of gifts.
Answer by samurai_chica at 10:09 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
You need to meet in a place where your son can be distracted. The zoo is a great idea. Also, the park is another wonderful place. You may want to have someone else he knows, besides you, when your boyfriend does meet him. This might help distract your son. You also need to warn your boyfriend. Let him know how your son reacts to people and that he should not be offended. Let your boyfriend know that it will take a few times for your son to relax around him, and you all just need to be patient. As far as bringing it up, ask him what he thinks about going to the park with the both of you. Come up with a time, preferably after his nap, that would be good for everyone. Hopefully all will go well.Give your son some time. If he still doesn't come around after several attempts, you need to follow your son's cues. Kids are the best choice of character. If he does not like your boyfriend, it is for a specific reason.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 10:51 AM on Jul. 14, 2010
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