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re-entering motherhood.. how do i do it?

so the last 2 years, DS got his way with everything. last weekend, i basically "re-entered" into being his parent and i need to make it right. he SCREAMED/CRIED for almost a hour b/c i had him buckle his carseat in the correct way (he has a 5 pt harness and never buckled the part between his legs and didnt really use the shoulder part- he puts its under his arms.. and its really loose)... i didnt even tighten it at that point and he was like that... but how do i really "be" a parent? how do i get him to understand that its a safety issue more than anything? b/c i know that if i dont do it now- he's not gonna care when he gets older... or even now- he'll just go back to his regular ways, which means not really being buckled in.

he'll be 5 in Oct. any other tips, along with the carseat one- will be REALLY helpful for me.

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:23 PM on Jul. 14, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Car doesn't move until he's in correctly. It's a LAW. :)

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 9:25 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • I hate to say it but he's just going to have to get over. Just keep explaining to him that it's for his own safety.

    Answer by DesertRose75 at 9:26 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • Be persistant... do NOT give in! It may take some time but he will learn you are gonna back down

    Answer by mrsmamaj at 9:28 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • calm and assertive~do the rules.. i will help you...
    he is protesting for lots of reasons~the car seat isn't a choice...give him other times for choice and control~but the car you are in charge~

    Answer by surfcitymom at 9:29 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • agree with all of the above

    Answer by looovemybabies at 9:30 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • You are not re-entering motherhood. Dont be so hard on yourself. It is a very good idea to belt him in right and you are a good mother for seeing it for what it is. We have all been there at one time or another, no one is perfect at this mothering thing. My dd will be 18 next month and my son 16. I have made plenty of mistakes, but they have turned out pretty good so far. Cant believe in one month my dd will be a legal adult, that still blows me away. It is trial be error, taking the path of least resistant till you come to your senses and realize what your doing isnt a good thing. Your going to be just fine :)

    Answer by beyondhopes at 9:30 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • Your number one friend is going to be consistancy. He will fight you tooth and nail. Know that it will be tough, but in the end you both win. Refuse to yell or scream. Use a calm, low tone voice as much as possible. Explain to him that the rules are changing, right now, and they aren't going back. Tell him I will not talk to you or pay attention if he throw a fit. use time outs..even if it means putting him back in the spot 100 times. He will learn you are not kidding. If he refuses to buckle buckle him up. Good Luck and congrats on making a great decision.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:32 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • Car doesn't move untill he is buckled in. Say yall are going to the park, and if he wants to go he will have to stay buckled.. if not back home we go. Carry treats around that you can pass out every few minutes that he stays buckled. Maybe go for a trip for icecream.

    Answer by MKSers at 9:43 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • You must show him who the boss is....YOU!!! BE ASERTIVE, CALM, CONISTANT,AND STRONG Do not back down. If it is an option to not take him tell him either he buckles up or he does not go.

    Answer by heathers5500 at 10:03 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

  • Be calm and consistant...and stronger willed then your son! You can do it! GL

    Answer by Soniam301 at 11:34 PM on Jul. 14, 2010

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