With all the different views of parenting, or discipline or plans of action when something comes up - me and my husband were together for 11 years before making the decision to have our son.. I thought we gave every area thought and discussion but we seem to constantly butt heads now that we are parents.. given a not-so-easy child to raise, we can't seem to stay on the same page and seem to bicker and blame more now than ever.. although we are aware we are doing this, we try to calmly talk, we very much do not do this in front of our son, but sometimes he's more work than our son.. its like every time our son goes through a phase/transition or now, personal issues, my husband reacts like a child and its impossible to talk to him about or make rational decision about our son together - then he throws "why do I bother, I dont' get to make decisions anyway" then will later admit its not true.. so irritating..
My husband and I had generally similar ideas about parenting, but what really brought us together and eased the conflict was taking a parenting class together. While taking the class a lot of issues came up that we had never really discussed before. We decided to adopt the parenting method we learned about in the class, and we work more like a team now than we did before. We handle situations with the kids in a very similar and consistent way. I think taking a class together would be helpful for a lot of couples, particularly couples with a "not-so-easy child to raise". Being on the exact same page as your spouse when it comes to discipline definitely lessens conflict over parenting. The class we took was Love & Logic, but I'm sure there are other methods that could also help you and your husband find a system that works for both of you.
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