Okay, me and my 13 year old have been struggling alot lately because we disagree on how she is dressing, wearing her hair, and applying makeup. Everyday is a struggle and I am getting tired of arguing. Also, I feel as if I am not allowing her to develop her own style. So I came up with a few ground rules, do you think I am asking too much?
1. Shower everyday
2. No eyeliner or excessive eyeshadow
3. Bangs can not be covering eyes
4. No bras showing or cleavage exposed
If she follows these three rules I will not contradict any other "style" she might choose. She is very beautiful and everyone always gives her compliments but she seems to be trying to look too old too fast. Am I doing the right thing?
Answer by mommy16love at 4:04 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 4:04 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by MaryMW at 4:08 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
I am in the same boat with you momma, with my 13 year old girl, she's my SD but I have been helping my DH raise her since 2 years old. She's one week with mom then 1 week with us, yesterday she came over to pick something up, she was wearing blush, really dark blush, I got upset I told her not to expect to be able to wear it at our house. She already wears eyeshadow, a pound of mascara, foundation and lip gloss. I wasn't even allowed to wear makeup until I was 16. Another time she came over in a tube top type of shirt, we made her change before we left the house. If her cleavage is showing I make her put a shirt under what she's wearing to cover it. It must be the age, I think you are being more than fair by even compromising with her and still allowing her to have her own style but you have to put your foot down when you feel it's too much so I think you're in the right path. Good luck, I know your pain!
Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 4:10 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 4:11 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Daily showers aren't good for skin. Americans shower too much. Once or twice a week is all that is needed. I would say no make-up, 13 year olds don't need to be wearing make-up. I would buy the clothes. Not sure about the hair.
Answer by Gailll at 4:17 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 4:21 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by ChaoticGood at 4:50 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by happytexasCM at 4:54 PM on Jul. 15, 2010