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THIS IS REALLY A STATEMENT ABOUT HOW I REALLY FEEL

i am in an emotion-less marriage.we co exsist, raise the kids, pay the bills and sometimes have sex.its gotten to the point where when we have alone time, it feels awkward and uncomfortable.all i can think is "where is it that he really wants to be right now" for example most of his happiness seems to come from playing basketball, working out, and going to his friends house to hang out and drink.when we are supposed to be together having fun or just relaxing, he seems bored uninterested or irritated.on top of all that i dont trust him, awhile back he changed drastically and started hanging at the neighbors house 24/7 to "drink and bull *hit around".. a guys things, so he says.. he would come home at 3am almost every night! that really made me look at him in a different light and now i dont trust his whereabouts. so i just stopped arguing with him about it, stopped caring and now our relationship is pretty much non exsistant.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:47 PM on Jul. 15, 2010 in Relationships

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  • then why do you stay?
    marriedmomto5

    Answer by marriedmomto5 at 5:49 PM on Jul. 15, 2010

  • Talk to him now, and tell him how you've been feeling...honestly, openly and calmly. Give him the opportunity to compromise with you what you will put up with and what kind of time away from the family he needs as well. You should both be gettin out and about. Even with just each other. Make time for just you two without the kids.
    If he's not willing to put for the effort I say the same as marriedmomto5......"then why do you stay"
    CAGirl4

    Answer by CAGirl4 at 5:53 PM on Jul. 15, 2010

  • that's really too bad, your children deserve to be in a loving happy environment, which means mommy being happy too!! and in love.. remember, they learn what they see!
    maxsmom11807

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 5:54 PM on Jul. 15, 2010

  • How lonely! Do you have any girlfriends that you can go to for "girls nights"? Sometimes men think that they can do whatever because their wife is "safely" at home....just talkin'...
    lizard111

    Answer by lizard111 at 6:03 PM on Jul. 15, 2010

  • You deserve to be happy too! If you want to try to save the relationship, then talk with him. If you don't, then get the kids and go be happy!!
    Cindy18

    Answer by Cindy18 at 6:04 PM on Jul. 15, 2010

  • Ok, so that's how it is right now ... what do YOU want out of the relationship? What do you need?
    aliceinalgonac

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 8:00 PM on Jul. 15, 2010

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