I HAVE A ALL MOST FIVE YR OLD GIRL AND DEALING WITH MY SERATION IS ALSO VERY HARD FOR ME AND I AM DOING EVERTHING MY SELF AND IT IS HARD WHERE MY DAUGHTER TELLS ME NO A LOT OF THE TIME WHEN I SAY TO HER DO SOMETHING SHE SPEAKES UP RIGHT A WAY AND TELLS ME NO SO THAT IS WHY I HAVE A LOT OF STRESS AND NEED TO FIND WAYS OR IDEA ON DIFFERENT WAY TO KEEP BETTER MOM AND TRY TO GET MY MARRIAGE BACK TOGETHERAnswer Question
Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 8:58 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
Answer by Bmat at 8:58 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
You are feeling stress, want to be a better mom, and get your marriage back together. There are lots of web sites devoted to stress management that can give you good ideas. If you can find a public and a private stress reduction method that works for you then that may be all you need. For me my private method is meditation and my public method is deep breathing. Using deep breathing is very easy to learn, you may have learned it in childbirth classes.
The book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen might be a good start with your daughter. STEP (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) classes may be available in your community. PET is also good.
Don't know what to say about your marriage. You may need to accept its over.
Answer by Gailll at 9:03 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
First remember that your child is stressed now too, w/ the separation, so that is probably why she's acting up. Show her a lot of love and asure her you guys world is not ending, just a new chapter is starting. Be willing to listen and tell her you are always gonna be there if she has questions.
Be firm w/ her and follow thru on punishments (like if you have told her that next time she talks back you will take away her tv-time/toy/ground her or whatever your punishments are, and then DO it the minute she breaks the rule.) That will not only better her behavior, but also give her some much needed stability in her life.
As for your stress, exercise is a good way to releave it. If you're not the work-out freak, maybe go for a 30 min. walk. And hang in there.
Answer by Nynne at 9:27 PM on Jul. 15, 2010
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