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should i be worried about another adult not treating thier kid the right way !?!

because i feel that my friend is not treating her 5 month old daughter the rigth way ! as in not feeding her regularly and changing her daiper the right way or wiping her good and i feel she doesnt put enough effort in to her mom side of herself ! and i feel i need to help her with her parenting skills ! so pleaseee help me i dont know what to do !?!

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cutieroxy247

Asked by cutieroxy247 at 2:14 AM on Jul. 16, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • if its cause she doesnt "know" how to be a parent then i say sure help her out..thats what friends are for..give her advice and talk to her..perhaps show her what to do..
    if shes just lazy and careless then id be worried
    lhernandez7208

    Answer by lhernandez7208 at 2:15 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • If she is a great friend of yours and you feel this deep inside you then ofcourse lend a hand maybe she is stressing out and she needs a helping hand.
    raemommy

    Answer by raemommy at 2:16 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • I guess before i give advice on this one i have to ask, how much time do you spend around this friend and her baby? How often is she feeding her child? Not all moms are created equal and we dont do things the same way, you may be the throw yourself completely into your child type while she may be more of the laid back take time for herself type. Nothing is worse than a well meaning friend who doesnt have all the facts judging your parenting skills. I only say this because I am a good mother my children are well cared for but i did have a friend who thinks that i and everyone else need her guidence and advice and that if we dont do it her way then we are not good mothers. Sometimes a well meaning friend may not know all the facts.
    3_ring_circus_

    Answer by 3_ring_circus_ at 2:24 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • If the baby doesn't have rash or infections then the diaper changes aren't a big deal. If the baby isn't growing then say something. If the baby is gaining at least a pound a month then don't say anything. Hope she picks up on how you are with your children and with her baby.

    Gailll

    Answer by Gailll at 2:25 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • is she just not doing it to meet your standards? As long as the baby is healthy and has no rashes like gailll said i wouldnt say anything. its her child.
    MomNbabyGirl009

    Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 2:40 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • DO talk to her first to know the reason.
    A11

    Answer by A11 at 4:25 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • I agree with 3 ring circus and gaiillll
    LavenderRose10

    Answer by LavenderRose10 at 4:49 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • How important is this friendship to you? If the baby is healthy with no obvious signs of neglect, then leave it alone.
    motherofhope98

    Answer by motherofhope98 at 8:13 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

  • Every mom is different, Some do above and beyond and some the bare minimum, some in the middle. Just because she doesn't do it your way doesn't mean it's wrong. She's tired and stressed with her new baby maybe thats why? As long as the baby is happy and healthy, thats all that matters
    littlefee89

    Answer by littlefee89 at 10:23 AM on Jul. 16, 2010

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