I have been feeling really bad about myself for a while now. It all started a few months ago when I found out my SO wouldn't have sex with me because he pleased himself to porn instead. Then I gained 10 pounds (stress induced I think) and now with all the problems my SO and I have been having, we rarely touch eachother. When I try to, its just awkward, I ask him to shower with me and he won't anymore. I go to bed alone a lot. My lack of self esteem is causing a lot of our current problems, i'm worried he is seeing other women because i'm not enough for him, or I worry that he finds me disgusting, and these things really take a toll on me and my relationship. How do I improve my self esteem? SO and I have only been together for a year.
Years ago. This is what worked for me.
1 Took a good long hard honest look at and into myself. Took a good inventory of all the things that I was unhappy with or found "wrong" with me. Not easy to do, pretty much sucked. But being honest with myself was the best start.
2From my inventory. I looked at the things that I and only I have control over and only I can change. And I looked at the things that are beyond my control and can't change.
3 The things that I alone have control over, I figured out what changes I could make to them that would make me feel better about me. And I began working on changing those things. The things beyond my control. I learned that I must love and accept about myself, because they are ME, they are a part of ME. They help make me who I am.
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