i really want to stay and work it out with my husband, BUT i want counsling, and he says no. we have two babies together and it breaks my heart to think they will have to go through this. we fight almost non stop for a few days then we are ok for a day or two. i am SICK ofm this cycle!!! we have this long draining talk about stuff and it never really changes. i CAN NOT go through this anymore! tonight i told him that i dont want to leave him, but we need to change. BOTH of us!! so i said it has to be counsling or divorce. he told me no way is he doing counsling, so go ahead and do what i have to do. i am really torn apart inside. is it ever a good idea to stay together for the kids?? if we didnt have kids, i am positive we would no longer be together. HELP PLEASE!! no bashing please, i just want your thoughts and advice. i am a little emmbarrased to talk to my friends about this. thank you in advance!!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:51 PM on Jul. 18, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by CAGirl4 at 8:53 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
Answer by MomOfDagJag at 8:54 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
Answer by amandajoy21 at 8:57 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
Well, you did issue the ultimatum. You told him counseling or divorce. He refused counseling. So that leaves you with only one option. It's never a good idea to stay together "for the sake of the children". Your children will be happier if raised with happy parents, not with unhappy or fighting parents. Good Luck.
Answer by aliceinalgonac at 8:57 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
Answer by babyangelromero at 8:57 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
Having been in that situation, I can say that divorce, even though painful and difficult to adjust to, is by far the better situation. My ex hubby is always nicer to me when discussing the children after the divorce then while we were married. My children had a lot less problems with school and behavior after the divorce. Yes, it is a tough choice. But staying put to avoid pain ahead while sinking in pain and awful habits is not good for the children. Sorry to be blunt, but that is the fact of the matter at hand.
Answer by Joeygoat at 8:58 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
Answer by babyangelromero at 9:11 PM on Jul. 18, 2010
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Answer by Orionsgirl at 9:29 PM on Jul. 18, 2010