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What do you think this means?

My husband and i have been married for 6 yrs in October and have 2 young girls (2yrs and 2months.) We still love each other but it just seems we arent as connected as we use to be. We dont have much to talk about, we both feel unappericated and unsupported by the other ( he told he does), we have different views on almost everything, and he doesnt communicate well at all, where as all i know how to do is talk it out. I dont know how we got together in the first place, I just started recongizing all of this about a yr ago.

Question: Do you think this is the beginning of seperating?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:24 AM on Jul. 19, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (8)
  • I think you know you have problems and should be working on it now. Maybe counseling or maybe sitting down and having a calm discussion on what the two of you can do to make things better. Start with one issue on his side and one issue on your side and spend time working on it together. One step at a time and one day at a time. Identify what is wrong and work on it.

    Answer by kc932 at 10:27 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

  • I think it's a sign that the two of you need to be more focused on the partnership ... that you should pay careful attention to the others needs and wants, be attentive to each others feelings, do things for each other, and learn to enjoy each other again.
    If that doesn't help facilitate change, THEN consider that it's the beginning of separating. For now, it's more likely that the two of you have just been very child focused and forgot to nurture your relationship as well.

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 10:28 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

  • I think if you you see the rift starting and you love him that maybe you should seek out some help before the damage is too bad to repair. Good Luck

    Answer by DessC at 10:29 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

  • only if you're both not willing to give a little. why not support him? or is that just some sort of excuse he came up with? if you're willing to help each other out and create a loving, supportive environment for your whole family it should work just fine. having differences is good, it actually gives you something to talk about.

    Answer by angevil53 at 10:31 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

  • It only means separation/divorce, if the two of you cannot find a "middle ground." You need to focus on the things you DO have in common--like your children, and then expand on interests/activities that you can do WITH your children--as a cohesive family unit. Think back to what it was that brought you two together in the first place. If it was "just sex/lust" then both of you have to realize that that can't last forever--especially once children come into the mix, and that you need to "branch out" and find other ways to keep the spark alive!

    ALL couples go through periods of ups and downs, the important thing is when there are "down" moments that you each have interests that you can entertain yourselves with--then it doesn't seem so lonely. If the foundation of relationship is built on solid morals and values, and not on the superficial things, you will survive.

    Answer by LoriKeet at 10:32 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

  • Well I have been married for 11 yrs and we have had years like this but we stuck together through it love is not an emotion it is a choice

    Answer by mscamp0235 at 10:37 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

  • Is there still "Marriage Encounter" ? It is wonderful. Ask your church. It is sponsored by churches but the Marriage Encounter weekend is not religious. It is for couples who need to communicate and reconnect. Might be just what you need.

    Answer by gertie41 at 11:04 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

    Link to information about Marriage Encounter.

    Answer by gertie41 at 11:06 AM on Jul. 19, 2010

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