My son Chris (almost 3) is driving me nuts these last few weeks. It’s as if he is trying to be naughty on purpose. He dumps his toys and doesn’t play with them or pick them up (a friend suggested making his throw them away and the later sneaking out to pick them out of the trash but that didn’t work because now he thinks it’s fun to throw away toys) he runs around jumping on me while I’m feeding my other son (6 months old), ignores me, general rule breaking and throws tantrums when placed in time out.
So far I’ve tried time outs for rule breaking, taking toys away if he doesn’t pick them up, and putting him in his room for tantrums, but I spend most of my time punishing him and getting angry.
I’m looking for suggestions, or support from all the mamas out there.
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 1:53 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
Answer by sati769leigh at 1:58 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 2:08 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
I think he is bored and looking for attention. You could start sending him pre-school. They have programs for 2 & 3 year olds. He is seeking attention & needs to be occupied. I don't think punishments are necessary or will help. He's being a typical 3 year old. He's bored and needs to be re-directed. He's really still a baby. This is a very hard time 2/3/4, believe me I know, my DS is 3 1/2. They have radar and know when you are stressed & seem to mirror your anxiety. Try to relax & be calm. If you get overly upset about an issue and react to him, he'll learn that's how he can get your attention. He is also experiencing a lot of new thoughts going through his head & he is becoming more aware about what is going on. My DS gets very cranky every few weeks and I attribute it to growing pains & just bear with it & ignor. Good Luck. I don't spank because I really think it does nothing.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:10 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 2:43 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 2:53 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
Hi Chrissmom, I think that the card chart and reward jar are worth a try. I haven't done anything like that yet but it sounds good. My DS is bored too and I'm sending him to preschool in Sept.. The cost is ridiculous but unfortunately he has no other kids to play with where we live. I feel bad because when I was growing up, there were kids all over the neighborhood. I take my son to the library though. They have programs for toddlers and infants. You could try that. I had to sign up in advance so it may be worth looking into. Also the advantage you have is that you have another child so when the younger one gets a little older they will have each other to play with. I would love another but I am already 43 :( and it doesn't look like it's in my future. Keep your head up, soon they will be going to High School and we have another whole problem to look forward to! LOL! Have a great week :)
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 3:04 PM on Jul. 19, 2010
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