Dh’s mother died last week after a long illness. He was there in June for 5 days, he just went in July for 2 weeks (she died during this visit) last night the said hat he is going back in Aug. for 10 days to help his sister sort things out with his mom’s house etc. I was Ok with him going until I see the email to his sister in which he talks about hanging out, taking the jet ski’s out etc. nothing about sorting out the estate. He told me she needed him to come but in the email she was surprised he was coming.
I am at this moment pissed. We are broke, a ticket is $$$$ We have a bajillion medical bills, a 14 month old toddler and I feel that he is being selfish. I am trying to be understanding, I know this is a HUGE thing when a parent dies but I feel like he is pushing everything to the side so he can go frolic in Cali.
Is he being selfish? Do I need an attitude adjustment? I feel like crying! Any suggestions
Answer by Bezu at 11:39 AM on Jul. 20, 2010
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Answer by trish2tew at 11:52 AM on Jul. 20, 2010
This is my opinion. RESPOSIBILITIES COME FIRST! Yes he needs time to grieve but he needs to be a man and take care of his family first (Your child, You and finances). If you have no money for him to fly, make him drive there. Is he using time from work? Does he get paid while he uses this time? Well if not then he should make it quick and do what he has to do. Settle the Estate spend a day or two with his sister and come home to his family. I understand how you feel. If he needs more time with his sister then let her come and stay for a visit when she can. Men have a hard time putting things into perspective, maybe you can explain these issues & MAKE him understand that what is most important is HERE & NOW.
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