Would you expect your friends to help out extra if they were living with you for free? This is the scenario: We are letting a couple stay with us for free for a couple of months or so while they find a job and get their situation straight. They don't have to pay for anything, all they have to do is just give a bit of money for utilities when they find a job. They have access to everything: a/c, t.v., internet, laundry, storage, own bathroom. They have their own food.
I'm just a bit hurt though because although they are very clean and clean after themselves they don't go out of their way to help out in the house at all as a way of at least saying thank you "let me do something for you" since we are here . All I want is some gratitude and I'm not sure if I'm being overly sensitive in being to quick to be hurt. My husband says just to wait and see.
But it maddens me, I sort of feel unappreciated and used.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:10 PM on Jul. 20, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Jademom07 at 12:14 PM on Jul. 20, 2010
Answer by crazedaffe at 12:19 PM on Jul. 20, 2010
Answer by soccerchik8287 at 12:35 PM on Jul. 20, 2010
I think you might be a little sensitive, but I think you are right. If I was living with someone for free, I would do anything I could help to "make up" for the gift I was given. I guess that is how we were raised though. My mom would never have let us go anywhere or do anything if we didn't help out the people we were with. I am not sure how to approach this subject because I would be afraid of hurt feelings. Maybe if hinted a little, here and there, and mentioned how nice it would if you could have a little help around the house. Maybe dishes or the floor cleaned. Good luck. However, even if the don't jump up to help, at least they are willing to clean up after themselves. My brother was here for 5 days and it was horrible having to cook and clean up after another person.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 1:31 PM on Jul. 20, 2010
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Answer by figaro8895 at 6:13 PM on Jul. 20, 2010
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