Set him up with a plan and accountability, and make sure he agrees to it too. I would suggest making a step by step plan. For example, the first 2 months he is required to pay for his own phone and car expenses (gas, payments, insurance), while at the same time saving a certian percentage of his expenses for college. Make sure spending money is factored into the budget. You can come up with a plan that fits his college schedule, and his maturity level. Not all kids are ready for the safety net to be removed right away. Show him the benifits of the plan, and don't get mad or make him feel like a failure if he fails on occasion. Let him fail AND reap the consequences. Teens often (but not always) do not know what consequences are unless they are allowed to experience them.
at 3:48 PM on Jul. 21, 2010