My son just turned 18 and of course he wants to do "whatever" he wants. The problem is he has spent his teens lying to me and his Father about the stupidest things. Started at 14 becoming more and more. When he turned 17 something changed and he started to mature and we let him take our car, and do things with his friends. BUT we caught him in a few major lies and now I feel like Im back at square one! We have sat down and told him how we feel about not being able to trust him and he says things will be different. How do I trust him again?
Answer by mickstinator at 11:10 AM on Jul. 21, 2010
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Answer by kjrn79 at 11:13 AM on Jul. 21, 2010
You don't learn..HE has to earn it back. Once trust is broken it is hard to ever trust at the same level again. My youngest lost our complete trust when he was 16. 6 months later he was like "c'mon, I've been doing what I'm supposed to" We made it clear that he still didn't get it. We took away all privileges. Even id I was running to the store for 5 minutes I made him come with instead of leaving him at home. It finally became clear to him just exactly what HIS ACTIONS had caused him to lose. It was a rough time, but we stuck to it..and he did learn from it. He is now almost 24 married and doing great. Good Luck.
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