My girls are 20 months apart, and I felt it was a great age. I just talked with my daughter about the baby all the time, she came with me to my appointmens and got to listen to the heartbeat, she sang songs to my belly, etc. Just get your daughter really involved and excited about being a big sister. But also let her know that you love her very much too. She will love having her own baby. :)
The best advice I recieved about reducing/eliminating jealousy was this: Let your daughter hold the newborn as much as she wants as often as she wants, even if the baby is sleeping. We did this, and after about a week our daughter was used to the baby and didn't ask as much. I feel it helped a lot, and I think it made me less stressed as well, as I helped her hold the baby, and realize that if the baby woke up, it was not the end of the world. It was a beautiful time. :) The still play very well and love each other very much.
at 3:02 PM on Jul. 21, 2010