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on the subject of Christmas/

My oldest daughter is from a previous relationship, and has two sets of stepgrandparents on that side.

She gets WAY more than the other two. Is it wrong to have the younger ones get a couple of extra gifts from Santa?


Asked by lovinangels at 2:39 PM on Jul. 22, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • In my house, we don't do Santa, but a few extra gifts wouldn't be a bad thing. If she goes to their house to get extra gifts that would be a good time to give a few to your other kids, or if they are sent to your house it would be okay to let them open a few extra from you when she gets hers from her grandparents.

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 3:56 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • IMHO not really, but honestly I think it's crappy of her grandparents to do your other kids that way. We give my stepson's brother & sister presents. IDK that might just be me being more thoughtful that way...

    Answer by DarkFaery131 at 2:42 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • My kids get 1 gift from santa and then their stockings. The other gifts are from family and us. We try to make everything even for them while they are young but as they age I think we will do it by dollar amount.

    Answer by SwtSnowflake2 at 2:42 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • probably not but the oldest daughter should know why so her feelings dont get hurt and there might be misunderstandings.

    Answer by americansugar80 at 2:42 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • I don't think so...Maybe not so many that your other daughter notices---but sure...My oldest DD is in the same position- she always gets way more b/c of extra grandparents on her dads side(my ex dh)...My youngest usually gets a few extra but she understands why my oldest gets more and its not been an issue :)

    Answer by bumblebeestingu at 2:43 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • no, I wouldn't think so ... but even more? why "count"? just get each child a gift that is appropriate for that child, something that they'll enjoy.

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 2:45 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • I should say that we keep a fair limit on gifts, so the fact that the oldest gets so much is really noticeable.

    Comment by lovinangels (original poster) at 2:47 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • I would stay equal on Christmas morning. Do your other kids say anything about the fact that DD has other grandparents that give her gifts? If they do just tell them the truth. My DD gets a lot more presents than her cousins do for she has more grandparents than they do. Her cousins understand it fine come holiday time. If you don't make a big deal out of it, it WON'T be a big deal.


    Answer by KairisMama at 2:47 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • If she spends time with her dad or paternal grandparents, then maybe have her leave at least some of her extra loot at their houses. I wouldn't adjust what you do in your home for all of your children. Unless she's getting a live pony or something, the younger children probably don't even notice.

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 2:52 PM on Jul. 22, 2010

  • get those babies some gifts!!!!! yes, go with the extra's.

    Answer by jewjewbee at 6:41 PM on Jul. 22, 2010